Loneliness-Time to Bond.

                         

             Our presence is a medium not a source……

                                                                        Pankaj 

 Today’s world is more social than ever we brought the conspicuous profound changes which made it possible.  We have devised the means of distraction to keep off ourselves from any sort of discomfort .We have created a virtual world where way of interaction is only a key stroke away. Virtual world, where one can choose what one’s wanted to be, Anonymity, the liberty which the real world doesn't provide. 

But still there are certain things inside us which remains intact nevertheless of the evolution and the peculiar changes we brought into the world. And we only can find these things only when we will try to see inside ourselves. 

Today when I am writing this blog I was feeling a little lonely, and this was not my first encounter with loneliness and I am very sure every person in his life come across a situation when he goes through a phase of boredom. There is no electricity in the area for last couple of hours as a part of government power cut scheme.  So Internet connection is out; I have drained away all other possible option for feeling better. Temperature is torching outside. I could have stepped out of my room however I made an opposite decision to stay inside four walls. I decided to encounter this boredom and write about the feeling it generates.

So I volunteered myself for feeling this, I knew these feelings would be ephemeral but as the moments gained momentum I felt too weak to face this. All the worldly things appear worthless, I felt like abandoned. I felt like air surrounding me contaminated with contempt and it started suffocating me. I just don’t want to be myself, and i want to hide somewhere because i can’t face myself. i felt pity about myself thinking how much dependent I have become on my surrounding that I can’t even bear myself.am I bored of myself or have become unbearable?. Tides of timid thoughts swayed me back and forth. What can I do? Nothing!

I think no one will disagree with my point that just like we spent some of our time to listen to others to understand what their thoughts are or more importantly to form a relationship, same way behind every bond there is a prerequisite that we spent some time together to understand one another or each other better. The same rule applies here then why not we spent some time with  ourselves to understand ourselves better to form a more strong bond with ourselves even when that will be for our benefit because the better you understand yourself the better it will bring out of you.

I asked to myself how I can be unfair to myself and deaf to my own voice. It happens that in a way of socializing with others we often overlook the person within ourselves. We forget that the person within ourselves has same expectation, demands just like others person has. It asks for, an attachment, a sense of belonging, fondness, affection from us. And if we keep continue to ignore to listen it someday it will lose its voice, its identity or more accurately we lose our very own self.

After feeling loneliness as a firsthand experience for first time for a brief time, my own perception about loneliness is quite awestricken, I felt a sense of attachment with myself a kind of reverence for my inner self. And belief me it was one of the best experience of my life. What you are now is because of your inner self which deserves to be credited. And we all should spend some time with ourselves, because just like other big buddies it is one and therefore it is his right to be listened. J

Crowd Relationship

        Outside of being home with my family, I prefer a crowd.
                                              - Clive Owen

                                                         

It is difficult to define the crowd physically, when there is no shape no size and not any such constant metric, it is almost near abstract in nature, because crowd never follows any principle. A group of few, more or many things not necessarily are living or not. It is sophisticate in nature.

You move downtown lane and soon you unknowingly or unconsciously join a subset of society called crowd, which has no particular identity, but it has characteristic i.e. crowd is always dynamic in nature and has a flow, it shrinks and expands almost simultaneously. Crowd creates itself, serve him and drive itself and finally destroy itself. This makes a crowd interesting thing. No external force plays any role Inside a crowd, it creates its own energy which is a kind of incentive which attract people to join the crowd and there is no such thing as barrier who can prohibit you to join.it is so benign in nature that it always offers itself to others without any condition and demand in reverse.

Looking from a different perspective, Crowd possesses some unique quality, inspite of randomness in its basic structure it manage itself quite well. Anthropologist defined the humans, sociologist explained the human psychology then law makers made rule and imposed regulations so that it can manage the society well but still we can still say that no such entity achieved the success to the extent it was supposed to achieve however it is making the things more intricate. However a crowd undefined, unexplained and lawless achieved this success though for a momentarily period of time.

If you observe a crowd, you can see this sub society is very interesting. It possesses almost every emotion of human nature sadness, happiness, loneliness and many more. You see there is an ephemeral eye contact among the peoples inside a crowd, a transient physical contact which bothers no-one, a laugh on other’s face unreasonably makes you laugh. Strangers exchange the smiles without any cause, perhaps a mutual effect. This intra crowd behavior is facilitated by a desire to accept a sense of levity in mood. Till the time you are part of this crowd you are country less, creedless, casteless. Crowd everywhere in this world follows the same pattern. Which is perhaps in my opinion the universal behavior of crowd and which is cornerstone of the crowd and this makes is more embracing and accepted. 

The World today is divided in macro and micro levels by borders, caste, class, creed etc. And in such times when we see a crowd we envisioned how the world is rendering itself into a more difficult place to be inhabited. Why this whole world can’t be like a crowd?  

A Wake Up Blast!

Terror attacks in any part of world are on a transition from rarity to commonality, bomb blast is slowly becoming a part of life and we should really appreciate the “endurance” of society for this. And recent in row of this incident is Hyderabad bomb-blast where toll reached to 15 and some 151 people have been injured.

This is not the first terror attack in Hyderabad, history of city confirms that such attacks happened in past with different intensity. The motto of all these attacks are same i.e. those who are behind the attack want an acceptance of their ideology, which is not accepted on the grounds of humanity, rationality. So they devise new way to get accepted. How far they have come successful in their new, though violent approach?

Terror is much successful then courage, because former has more follower then later today.  Even knowingly or unknowingly government is also following this path by spending more in arms, weapon of mass destruction to dominate or more accurately to terrorize others. Going deeper into this we will find that this alone faceless actor has enough potential to destruct any structure. Global policy, inter nation relationship; inter & intra social relationship has been reshaped by this alone.  In spite of govt callous claim of efforts this plague is spreading very rapidly.

Some countries has even opted this as a secret second policy and some of them are realizing now that this policy has a major loophole that is this policy back-fire. This has been proved from Pakistan’s proxy-war against India. Today Pakistan is on the verge of collapse; its economy is in upside-down, social unrest is on peak, democracy is in shadow.  Moreover this problem doesn’t remain within the boundaries it goes beyond that and impacts the neighbor so you can’t remain intact.

So my opinion is, we are left with little time but that is sufficient if we really have the willingness, to curb this problem.  We still can save many lives, and I believe this will be one of the greatest gifts we can give to next generation, but only if we succeed to achieve it.

stuck in a rut

Dictatorship of SHIV-SENA

from recent past we have seen the notorious politics of shiv-sena but this time it has moved beyond leaps & bound what they claim a patriotism in reality is nefarious act which not only dirt their reputation but also raise question on integrity of our country..